104 Self Esteem Self Love Affirmations to Heal and Care for Yourself

Are self esteem self love affirmations the secret to loving yourself? No, but they will help reorient you away from your negative thinking so you can make your inner critic and self talk accurately reflect your own greatness.

Having low self esteem sucks (you hate yourself).

Having too much self esteem does too (narcissist). 

So, affirmations for self love and self esteem are a tool that can be used in order to bring yourself back to a more accurate and objective vision of who you truly are, instead of relying on an inaccurate version that was programmed into you during your childhood.

This post is not designed to make you feel good about yourself. It’s not to make you feel bad about yourself either.

It’s here so you can tell yourself that truth, give yourself the credit you deserve, feel good about where you are in life and your potential.

Let’s begin…

Self Esteem Self Love Affirmations

Self esteem is a personal perspective you have about yourself, but that perspective is not necessarily accurate. You are the observer, and the observer has a bias. It’s important to weigh your own thoughts about yourself against the thoughts of others (whom you trust) and the results you get in life. 

If you objectively did a good job, how can you truthfully tell yourself that you didn’t?

Self Esteem and Self Love Affirmations

1. I am a lovable person and I accept myself just as I am. 
2. I deserve to be happy. 
3. I know that I am a valuable person and that I can contribute to the world. 
4. I forgive myself for the mistakes that I have made. 
5. I am a good person, and I will treat myself with respect. 
6. I believe in myself, and I will succeed in life. 
7. I love myself, and I approve of who I am. 
8. What you think of me is none of my business, because it’s not my life; it’s yours. 
9. I have many positive qualities that make me worthy of love and respect. 
10. I forgive myself for the mistakes that I’ve made in the past, and I’m moving on with my life. 

Affirmations For Self Love And Healing

The two types of self esteem are global and specific. Global self esteem means how you view yourself in general, during life. Specific self esteem describes how you view yourself in certain circumstances. 

For example: Generally you might think you’re not capable of doing extraordinary things, but some praise “programming” may have creeped into your psyche where you think specifically you’re very good at chess.

Maybe your mother or someone else verbally abused you while you were young saying things like “You’re useless. The only thing you can do is play chess. What value is that to me?!”

Now, as an adult, your global self esteem holds you down and makes you feel useless, while you still acknowledge that you’re good at chess (specific self esteem).

Even though you’re objectively/specifically good at chess, your global self esteem can weigh in and make your self talk sound like this: “The only thing I can do right is play chess”.

You undervalue your worth as a human, and downplay your ability to be good at chess, which, outside the tyranny of your global self esteem, is actually pretty cool, but within the confines of your global self esteem’s tyranny, is a useless skill that adds nothing to your value as a person.

Affirmations for Self Love and Healing:

1. I accept myself just as I am, even though there are things about me that could be improved. 
2. I can be happy if I choose to be, regardless of what is happening in my life. 
3. I have many positive qualities that make me worthy of love and respect. 
4. It’s OK to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. 
5. I deserve to be happy, so even if others don’t treat me well, my happiness is still possible. 
6. My needs are important, so if someone isn’t willing to meet them, then they aren’t right for me. 
7. It’s OK to say ”no” when someone asks me for something that I don’t want to do or something that doesn’t feel right to me. 
8. I deserve to be treated with respect by others because of how valuable a person I am.
9. I am a great person. 
10. I am worthy of love. 

Low Self Esteem Affirmations

Low self esteem is only the equation. Imbalance of self esteem is not healthy – good or bad. People with low self esteem run the risk of negligible self worth, and those with too high self esteem are narcissists with a toxic sense of entitlement.

Narcissism is one of the metrics in the dark triad. Somewhere around the 50th percentile is best for you, which means you have an average amount of self esteem relative to the rest of the population. 

In other words, it’s good to be average when it comes to self esteem.

Low Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. I am a success. 
2. I deserve all the best things in life. 
3. I am confident.
4. I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. 
5. I like who I am and who I’m becoming. 
6. I can relax and enjoy life. 
7. I’m a good person. 
8. My opinions are important. 
9. I deserve to be happy.  
10. We are the sum of all of our experiences. 

High Self Esteem Affirmations

Self esteem and self love are often not rooted in reality and derive their power from deep mental assumptions we have about ourselves. Having high self esteem is not as good as you might think because it can cause people to be delusional about their self worth. Instead, a more balanced approach to self esteem is preferred. 

That being said, if you were looking for high self esteem affirmations, they would look something like this.

High Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. We are not our thoughts, or our beliefs, or our desires. 
2. We are the sum of all of our experiences. 
3. We can not change others, but we can change our own thoughts and beliefs. 
4. We can choose to focus on the things that give us pleasure and believe only those things, but we can also choose to focus on the things that are painful and believe only those things. 
5. We have to choose which way we will focus. 
6. Our thoughts and beliefs create our life, so we have to choose our thoughts and beliefs carefully. If we believe we can do something and actually do it, then we will find success in that area. 
7. If we believe something is impossible and then we actually try to do it, then we will find that it is possible, even when we thought it was impossible. 
8. If we think something is a good idea, then it will be a good idea. 
9. If we think something is a bad idea, then it will be a bad idea. 
10. We have to think positively so that our life turns out positively and so that others find us attractive and interesting. 

Positive Self Esteem Affirmations

Are you someone who just can’t take credit for anything? Because of their programmed low self esteem, even if they objectively have done something good or amazing. Constantly downplaying their achievements, they’ll shrug off compliments and recognition by saying it wasn’t that good or they just got lucky.

It’s important to understand that there is nothing about you that makes you inherently inferior to anyone else. If you find yourself disagreeing with that, list the reasons you think you are lower than others. They’re undoubtedly illogical.

Positive Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. I am worthy of love, respect and appreciation. 
2. I have the courage to take risks and make mistakes.
3. I accept my strengths and weaknesses. 
4. I am capable of achieving my goals. 
5. I believe in myself and my abilities. 
6. I am capable of making positive changes in my life. I am strong and resilient. 
7. I trust in myself and my decisions. 
8. I am worthy of success and happiness. 
9. My potential is limitless, and I will strive to reach it. 
10. I am comfortable with who I am, and that makes me unique. 
11. My opinion matters, and my voice will be heard. 
12. I will not let fear or doubt stop me from achieving my dreams. 
13. My self-esteem is growing every day, and that brings me joy! 

Daily Self Esteem Affirmations

Self esteem affirmations should be used daily. Keep them on a laminated card in your wallet or a pocket. When transforming anything about yourself, it will take a while before it’s habitual, and you’ll have to constantly remind yourself to form the habit.

The purpose of a token (laminated card or piece of paper) is that you notice it every now and then. Something is out of place. You think to yourself “What’s that in my pocket I feel?”. Then you pull it out and get snapped back into your new way of thinking.

This fights the programming one day at a time.

Daily Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. Today will be what I make it, and I choose to make it good.
2. People respond to me in loving appreciative ways.
3. I’m capable of controlling my outcomes.
4. I choose to make things positive.
5. I feel great about today’s potential.
6. I will face today’s challenges head on.
7. Everything turns out right for me no matter what.
8. People appreciate my work and contribution.
9. I appreciate it.
10. I feel good because I am as valuable as everyone else.

Christian Self Esteem Affirmations

One thing is true about life: a spiritual element always helps. Actually, in my own and others’ lives, I’ve found that a metaphysical element is often the missing peace to attaining enduring satisfaction and success in life. 

Spiritual life, philosophy, metaphysics – these are all realms of experience that enhance our appreciation and experience of life. They also increase our view of our own potential, and of our internal worth.

Let’s pretend you happen to be a Christian. There are plenty of reasons for you to have confidence that you are valuable. God literally says so!

We’ll keep that one example for right now, but if you’re part of another religion or tradition, or just believe in metaphysical things, you can easily craft some affirmations that are similar to the ones below and fit them into your lifestyle.

Christian Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. God sees me as his child.
2. Whatever I pray for, I receive in his own timing.
3. God is my protector in all situations.
4. My faith keeps me safe and happy.
5. I am valuable because the lord said so.
6. My worth is the same as everyone else’s’. 
7. My final destination is Heaven.
8. I have a place in the Lord’s abode.
9. He is with me. I have no fear.
10. He ordered me: Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened. Do not be dismayed.

Morning Affirmations For Self-esteem

Reciting your self esteem & self love affirmations in the morning as soon as you wake up takes advantage of that near hypnotic state you’re in directly after waking. It’s a quasi-dream-like state where you’re not completely lucid but no longer sleeping either.

Very powerful for embedding affirmations directly into the unconscious and subconscious minds.

Morning Affirmations for Self Esteem:

1. I am valued and appreciated by those I interact with.
2. I have control over my outcomes.
3. I choose to feel good about myself.
4. Other people can list things about me that are great.
5. I do an outstanding job and put forth tremendous effort.
6. I take care of myself because I love myself.
7. My value is the same as everyone else.
8. I deserve to be noticed and acknowledged.
9. I feel great about myself.
10. I can accomplish anything today. 

Affirmations For Confidence And Self-esteem

1. I am confident. 
2. I am self assured.
3. I feel great about myself.
4. I am always enough.
5. I can learn and accomplish whatever I choose.
6. Today is the perfect fit for me and my skills.
7. I make time for what is important to me. 
8. I am allowed to do what I want to do in my life. 
9. I am confident in myself and my abilities.
10. I can adapt easily if I’m not familiar with something.

Best Self Esteem Affirmations

What are the most effective self esteem self love affirmations? For affirmations to be most effective, you want them in the present tense, tied to intense emotions, easy to recite and easy to memorize so that you can repeat them without seeing them.

They’ll also target the core of low self esteem and lack of self love.

Best Self Esteem Affirmations:

1. I forgive myself.
2. I am not my past.
3. I am who I choose to be.
4. I choose to feel good and loved.
5. I am someone who is valued & valuable.
6. Other people genuinely appreciate me.
7. I believe people when they tell me I did a good job.
8. I have skills and abilities that make me great.
9. I earn my achievements. The credit is rightfully mine.
10. I forgive those who wrong me today, and in the past.
11. I choose who I am. I create myself according to my own wishes.

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