Let me guess. You thought they cared. They never have time for you but have time for everyone else.
People make time for what they want and who they want. If it’s not you don’t worry. I’ll show you how to get rid of the pain of not being a priority and how to rebound after the disappointment.
Let’s begin.
Why People Make Time for What They Want
We are all victims of our time. We don’t have enough time to do all the things we want to do and we end up doing what is urgent instead of what is important. It’s a symptom of our society. We are all constantly busy. We all want to be successful and live a great life, but we will never get there if we don’t make time for those things that are most important.
Whether it is spending time with family, pursuing a hobby, or working toward a goal, people will always find a way to make time for the things that are most important to them. People prioritize their own needs and desires ahead of other commitments, and this is why they will often put aside other obligations in order to focus on what they truly want.
Ultimately, people make the most time for relationships, experiences, and personal growth.
- Relationships are essential for human beings as they provide us with support, love, and companionship.
- Experiences are also important as they allow us to create memories and learn new things.
- Personal growth is essential as it allows us to become better versions of ourselves by learning from our mistakes and striving to reach our goals.
All of these things are important to humans and are why people make the most time for them in their lives.
Why People Make Time For Who Is Important To Them
People make time for what and who they want in life. It’s a sad truth. Nobody wants to have a moment where they realize someone is making time for other things instead of us.
Everyone is busy but no one is too busy for what they want. You are either making time for something or you are making time for nothing. If you’re making time for nothing then you’re wasting your life.
Nothing is more important than the people in your life that you love and that love you back. Everyone has their own lives and problems but if your friends and family are important to you then they will be there when you need them the most.
If you’re not important to someone, they won’t make the time for you. Case in point: look at all the people in the world you’re not making time for. It’s a very normal thing to keep important relationships a priority.
So if someone doesn’t value the relationship you have, you’re not a part of their life plan, or they just don’t care about the experiences you both share that much, you might start to see them making time for others that fit those roles instead of you.
Signs Someone Isn’t Making Time for You
If you want to know if someone really cares about you or not, then look at what they do for you. If they make time for you, chances are they care about you. If they don’t then they don’t. Nothing can replace the people that are important to us in our lives, so make time for them because they may not be there tomorrow.
When you understand this, you can see why they make time for others and not you, it’s nothing personal, but it still might hurt your feelings initially.
Especially if we’re talking about someone who made you feel like they really liked you, and then they started to spend less time with you. They may have even stopped replying to your messages or returning your calls.
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You may think that they just lost interest, but the truth is that people make time for what they want. If this person doesn’t want to spend time with you, then it’s because they don’t want to spend time with you.
There’s nothing wrong with you; it’s just that this person doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. If someone wants to be in a relationship with you, then they will make time for you. Period.
The most important thing to do is to find out if what you have is worth their time. If it is, then you are in luck! But if it isn’t, then you have got to figure out why not.
- Are you not attractive to them?
- Do they not appreciate your intelligence or respect your outlook on life?
- Are you you boring to them?
- Are you not fun to be around?
Remember that all these are simply personal preferences, but that word preference is key. They prefer other attributes in people that you don’t possess. There are people in this world you feel the same way about. It’s normal, not everyone is a good fit for one another.
Not only that, but everyone shouldn’t be a good fit for one another. We don’t have time or the resources to love everyone. It’s not possible.
If this person is busy and won’t make time for you, then it’s a sure sign that they don’t really like you. Why would someone who really likes a person not make them a priority?
I think the answer is because they don’t really like that person. They are only interested in the idea of them. They might like you on paper, but when you both interact, something is missing.
There’s no chemistry.
How To Know If You’re Not Important To Someone
So how do you know for sure whether you’re important to someone or not? The simple answer is what I’ve been saying over and over again. When youre not important to someone, they don’t make time for you.
No one wants to feel like they’re being pushed away but people are protective of their time. Time is synonymous with life. When our time runs out, our life runs out. It’s not unusual that we would all be very careful with how we spend our time, and who we spend that time with.
- When you’re not important to someone, they make excuses as to why they cant hang out or why they cant help you with something.
- They might say that they are busy or that they have other priorities right now.
- They might even cancel plans at the last minute because something else came up. –
People who are important in your life will be there for you when you need them.
- They will be supportive of your goals and dreams and treat you like the important person that you are.
- They will make time for you and do their best to be there for you.
People are always making time for what they want. So are they prioritizing you in their life in a reasonable way? If not, then it is unlikely that this person will be there for you when you need them most.
How to Respond When Someone Isn’t Making Time for You
So what do we do when we find out someone is not making us a priority in their life?
When you figure out that someone is not making time for you it’s probably time to move on from that person, or at least bring your investment in the relationship equal to theirs.
- You don’t need to abandon them
- You also don’t need to cause a confrontation
All you really need to do is “cut the cord” that’s tying you emotionally and mentally to them. If they’re not into you, so what, many others are and will be. Everyone has their group to belong to regardless of how weird, niche or plain their personality is.
You don’t have the capacity in your heart or brain to love and be loved by everyone. It’s an extraordinary gift to be loved even by one person, and even more so to just love yourself. Love exists for you, so find it and be satisfied with it.
What to do when you find out you’re not important someone
I’ve had a few people say to me that they don’t have time for me. I’ve also said that to others and meant no offense by it.
I’ve had a few people do the same, and I’ve also had a few people who’ve said they don’t have time, but then they found time for me.
What’s the difference?
If you’re not important to them, it doesn’t matter how much you want something from that person, if they don’t want you in their life, then you won’t be in their life.
In a way, it’s a sad thing when we realize we’re not important to someone else. It hurts us because we realize that we tried so hard and got so close only to find out that we’re not valued by someone else.
But it’s an inevitable thing at times. It’s the way of the world.
How should we react when we realize that we’re not important to someone else?
How do we move on from that?
How do we fill our lives with someone else and reconcile the pain of not being cared about by someone else?
I’ve come up with a few steps that work for me.
- Humble yourself – you’re not the center of the universe.
- Cut the cord. You’ve been focusing and devoting energy to this. Distance yourself from the pain.
- Realize you have a whole life, and this person doesn’t deserve to the center of it either.
- Go live your life authentically, and the people who deserve to be a part of it will be eventually.
Good luck. 🙂
